I look at these boys these days and I shake my head in disappointment.
The way they talk to and treat females is disheartening.
They are unaware. Its time a real man teaches them how to treat and love a lady. But even those men can get lost in a woman's translation.
There are certain ways to get a woman to respond to a man. Just saying "yo when you gonna let me smash that" is not the way.
Well, maybe for hoodrats.
But a real woman wants to be seduced, romanced, and enticed
Have you ever wondered why some men are so good at attracting females even when he doesn't look that good?
Its not all about his "swagger".
It's more about how he seduces his women.
The real art of seduction is knowing how to look but not stare,
how to get close but not smother, how to talk but not too derogatory,
how to touch but not grope, and how to be attentive but not clingy.
Few men know the balance but the ones who do are either taken or players for life.
I write this blog because unfortunately we women tend to think that this knowledge should already be instilled in each man.
But it's not and then we are disappointed with the lack thereof.
So it needs to be said because no one is that good of a mind reader.
Pointers and advice is needed. But what I'm going to write is only facts about me.
However, I'm positive it can pertain to other women as well.
Now I'm not the PDA (public display of affection) type.
But there are ways to be sensual without touching. A simple glance can do everything a hug can.
Your eyes can say things that may not be....appropriate to say in public.
I don't like being hugged up on street but doesn't mean I don't want you near me.
It's always nice to have a man that I can feel next to me but not being engulfed by him.
When we're not in public, I'm all for affection. Now that does not mean kill me with cuddling.
Spread out the affection.
One doesn't like to be bombarded with it.
The way you hug is crucial.
Lack luster hugs are inadequate. I, like many women like strong hugs.
Not back breaking hugs but hugs that seem like its blanketing the whole body with a warm secure comforter.
Hugs from behind are always a good type with any woman.
Oh and keep the ass grabbing during a hug to a minimum.
If you got the hugging Down pack then it's time to work on caressing.
Not groping or grabbing.
Nothing spoils a relaxing moment with a man more than an untimely grab for my boob.
That doesn't say romance at all. You have to work your way up to that.
Try stroking the arm first or the thigh and caressing the hips.
I love massages. Most women do.
In fact, it's one of the quickest ways to switch the mood Into a sensual tantalizing moment.
Now if you get one of those playful types (like me), you
Might need to try other avenues to get her attention.
For example, I like to play fight.
That's a plus for a man because what better way to get all feels you want without protest.
But you might get tired of fighting so how do you knock me out of it?
A kiss
You'll meet those women who don't like kissing. Mostly because they don't know where your tongue has been.
But I love kissing. I'm not turned on if no kissing is involved. It does multiple things for me. Especially if you're good at it.
Kissing is a timed technique.
Just don't go in for the kill.
Take it easy. Kiss the cheek, shoulder, or ear first or the neck.
The neck works on all women. Light kisses, nibbles, licks. It all works wonders. Save the passion marks for when it gets intense.
Touching the face can also start a kiss.
Once you get the reaction your looking for then you kiss the lips.
You got to know what type of kisses your woman likes. She might not like French kissing.
I do though :)
A few little kisses and then you can French it up.
But if my mouth doesn't open then don't force it.
Maybe you don't wanna take all those steps to get a kiss from me (even though they'll get the best reaction).
So here's a tip boyfriends, put your hand on my face in such a way that your thumb is stroking my cheek and look into my eyes.
Make sure you're very close to me too.
Pause for a moment.
If you're doing this right, I should breathing a little heavier and nervously looking back at you.
Then you kiss me with you best shot. It's as easy as that.
That's definitely a quick way to get me to stop being mad at you.
Now, where are your hands while we're kissing??
They should be wrapped around me.
Mini massages while kissing will turn any woman on and I'm no exception.
If we are in a full make out session then your hands should be moving in various places.
Don't become an eager beaver though..
Take your time.
Taking your time to please any woman will not only satisfy her but yourself as well.
After you've gotten both of you into the mood then it's time for other foreplay activities.....
I'd love to talk about them but this blog is already long enough
and I'm trying to keep it as PG rated as possible.
These few tips can also be used in awkward moments of boredom or long silences.
Be mindful when you use them though. Because sometimes all a woman really wants to do is talk or just be in your company without sexual coercion.
To truly keep me or any woman is to satisfy her mind, body, and soul.
Though these things I've written will satisfy my body,
there is 2/3 of me that needs to be attended to as well.
Same for any female.
Good Luck.
